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I am a liberal-minded homeschool mom who is constantly trying to find that elusive state of balance in my life while enjoying my two energetic, yet vastly different boys.

Our wisdom is all mixed up with what we call our neurosis. Our brilliance, our juiciness, our spiciness, is all mixed up with our craziness and our confusion, therefore it doesn’t do any good to try to get rid of our so-called negative aspects, because in that process we also get rid of our basic wonderfulness.

~ Pema Chodron

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Friday
Aug062010

Houses of Ocean City - Flowers Galore

 

Ocean City, Maryland - July 2010

I have a thing for photographing houses, especially older houses or unique, interesting houses. Luckily, here in Ocean City, there is no lack of houses of all shapes and sizes. I have collected a fair number of photographs of Ocean City houses over the years, so I decided to start pulling them into their own collection and posting them here.

This house is one of my favorites and I was excited to finally be able to get a picture of it in all it’s summer glory. It makes me smile every time I drive by it.

The tricky thing about shooting houses in Ocean City is getting a clear shot of the house (without any cars parked in front). That and finding a place to park my car so I can get the shot. Having my bike down here has helped on that front. I have also done some shooting off season, but then you loose some of the “beach flavor.” Missing are the colorful drying towels and bathing suits hung over railings and the flying flags that are so prevalent during the summer. So I will include a mixture of both in season and off season shots.

I do know that there are some for whom Ocean City is a bit…for lack of a better word, tacky or touristy. But I find that after coming down here for over 10 years, that it has wonderful charm of its own. Tons to do. Tons to see. Tons to eat! A fantastic place to people watch. And I would not have it any other way.

I will be collecting these pictures in their own album over at my Smugmug account, so feel free to check it out. Hope you like them!

Saturday
Jul312010

Kid Pics for a Good Cause 

I just learned that a local homeschool mom, Lisa Hager, is also a fabulous natural-life photographer! She recently moved into Northern Virginia and I happened to notice her tagline on a post to one of my homeschool groups and of course had to check it out. And wow! What gorgeous photography. Really, beautiful stuff.

Then I noticed that she has decided to donate her proceeds for the entire month of August to CARE. How great is that? So if you were thinking about capturing this phase of your children’s lives in pictures, definitely check Lisa out. Oh and as an added benefit, Lisa is committed to keeping things as green as possible.

I highly recommend this form of professional photography…we had wonderful pictures taken 2 summers ago (not by Lisa who was still out in California back then…) and I can’t tell you how much I treasure them. Yes it is more pricey than going down to the mall, but what you wind up with is so much more special, it is more than worth it. A natural-life photographer can capture the true personality of your children in a location that means something to you and your family. Something that you will appreciate in the years to come.

So if you were ever considering getting pictures of your kids taken, now is a great time to do it!

 

 

Thursday
Jul292010

Right-Brained Kids and Memorization

One topic that seems to come up often on the Homeschooling Creatively list is how to help right-brained kids with memorization. This makes sense, since a lot of learning (especially in the early elementary years) is based on memorization: memorizing math facts, spelling words, phone numbers, you get the picture.

While there are some specific suggestions that can help right-brained kids with memorization, I think it is important to look beyond the specifics and understand what is going on from a right-brained perspective.

When it comes to memorizing, the important thing to remember is that memorizing is not a right-brained strength. It is not a way that they learn naturally although they do tend to become better at it as they get older. The fact that a lot of early “school” focuses on memorization is what often makes it look like the right brained learner is a “struggling” learner.

When it comes to giving our right-brained kids what they need to learn, there are two parts. One is understanding how they learn.  Two is understanding when they are developmentally ready to learn. Without understanding these two aspects, you are going to find that you are hitting your head against a wall (especially when they are 8 or 9 years old!) For those who are new to right-brained learners, I highly recommend reading Cindy’s Collaborative Learning Process. I am finding that this is scarily dead on for my right brained son.

So for how they learn….right-brained kids are definitely not strong in memorization. But they are strong in learning through association and by seeing patterns. They are not detail oriented kids but they are global thinkers and can often see higher level connections. This also means that they learn best when the learning is holistic rather than broken down into separate pieces.

These are the kids who have to know why something is important to know. They need context and a real reason to know something. So they can learn how to spell easier by writing and using words rather than by doing “spelling lessons”. They learn math facts easier by using numbers to do math rather than by doing flashcards.

Right-brained kids also are creative kids…which means that if something is mind numbingly boring, they are less likely to actually retain it. Which is one reason why I try to keep the throwing marshmallows quote in mind whenever dealing with Jason. Resources for these kids should focus on big picture learning, using patterns or associations or bringing some sort of creative aspect into it that will engage the right brain and help turn on the left brain.

As far as when they learn…right-brained kids develop on a very different schedule than left-brained kids. Unfortunately, the left-brained timetable is what is considered “normal” (for my thoughts on this, see my Fixing Right-brained Learners? post). This means that our kids (especially in the early years) always appear to be “behind.”  But our kids are not behind, they just develop skills at different times. Right-brained kids develop their 3D visual processing skills first before their 2D sequential processing skills. Since reading and writing and doing much of arithmetic is very sequential, these skills are going to come later. Reading usually clicks between 8-10 years old. Writing tends to be a little bit later around 10-12.

Knowing all this has helped me greatly in shifting my understanding of Jason. I don’t see his poor memorization skills as a major issue or something to be “worked” on. It is just something that he is not great at (and as he gets older he is getting better). I am terrible with following picture directions (something he is really good at) and have a lousy sense of direction. I developed coping mechanisms. Just as he will.

So when we did long division and he just could not keep all the steps straight, I put it aside until later. We moved on to something else, coming back to it periodically. I let him use a multiplication chart to help with the higher math and the more he uses the numbers the more he is remembering them (and the chart helps with seeing patterns).

When he was 10, I did start working on spelling a little bit, choosing a program that uses patterns (Sequential Spelling) but found that since he was not writing much in general, it just seemed too removed/separate to really mean anything to him. So I backed off. Now at 13, we are starting to do some Brave Writer exercises and he is doing more writing for his online games and his spelling is improving naturally. I have now started pushing him a bit more to do more memorization for some things that he has not picked up naturally…and he is much more ready for it.

Just as I don’t recommend “working” on reading with a right-brained 6 year old, I also don’t recommend working a lot on spelling with an 8 year old. They just are not developmentally ready for it. That does not mean do “nothing” though. Continue to play with words, have them make up stories, draw comics, play with clay etc. Create a relationship with writing in other ways. Focus on the creative aspect of writing/creating. The technical part (spelling) will come later and that “gap” can be filled in much easier.

I guess what it comes down to for me is that I want to teach Jason the way that he learns best. I want to work with his natural strengths, not against them. Especially when he was younger and developing a relationship with learning.

I remember when Jason was younger, he wanted me to put together one of his really big lego creations and while I could do it, it took a lot of really focused effort on my part. I got really frustrated and confused at points and I often ended up yelling at the boys for breaking my concentration. I can tell you that I get really cranky when asked to do this kind of thing.

I realized that must be exactly what it feels like to do something that goes against his natural learning style. Why would I want to make something that difficult for my son when there is an easier and just as valid way for him to learn? It just seems silly to make learning a “struggle” by trying to use a weak area (or focus so much attention on a weak area (to make it stronger)) while ignoring an existing strong area. And there are benefits to his learning style…he will not be one of those kids who just “memorizes the steps” without understanding what he is doing.

I want him to know how he learns best so that as he gets older he can find things that work for him. It does not mean that I ignore his weaker areas…just that I don’t focus too much on them when he is younger (and not as developmentally ready.) As he gets older I help him develop coping mechanisms (such as the fact that he still does not know his phone number so he carries it in his wallet) and we work more in his weaker areas.

Anyways, just wanted to throw some additional information about why certain approaches work better for our wonderful right-brained kids (and why others don’t).

Sunday
Jul252010

Weekend Reading - July 25th

OK, so I am cutting it close, but it is still the weekend. And if you are on the east coast, most likely you are looking for some indoor stuff to do as we are being hit by a pretty substantial heat wave. Here in Ocean City, we have been in the high 90s with the heat index near 105. Back home in Virginia they have been hit even harder with temps in the low 100s and heat indices even higher.

Needless to say, we have been hanging around inside this weekend. Even the beach is not any fun at those temperatures. But it has given me some time to do some more organizing and try to get caught up on some things (with varying degrees of success).

I am working on getting into a new routine, thanks in a large part to my dog Jez. For some reason, she has been waking me up to go outside a little before 7am. At first I started grumbling, but then realized that this is exactly what I need…motivation. I had been wanting to start getting up earlier (I really am a morning person, yet I have the tendency to stay up late and get up late), but had not been able to really make myself do it. Now with Jez’s help, I have been up and out of bed around 7am for the past couple of days.

I am finding that I feel less rushed and have been doing my morning meditation out on the hammock swing which is nice. I feed the dogs and the cats and I then have a little time before the boys wake up to get a few things done (like writing this blog post!) I even made myself some tea this morning (Yogi Peach Detox, yum). I find I can think clearer when the house is quiet, so the trick for me is to steal the time early in the morning when I can think better, rather than late at night when I am brain dead. We’ll see how it goes.

So without further ado, here are some links for your weekend reading enjoyment:

Why the Next Big Pop Culture Wave after Cupcakes Might be Libraries - I have such a special place in my heart for libraries. I adored my library as a kid, worked in one while at Virginia Tech and still use them often as an adult.

Reusit Biodegradable Garbage Bags - My favorite place for green goods now has biodegradable garbage bags made from 100% recycled plastic (in 3 sizes). I have been thinking about ways to cut my use of plastic and while I have been using plastic bags made from recycled plastic, I had realized that they still hang our for years in landfills. Biodegradable makes a lot of sense. The “bags are infused with a natural additive that allows the plastic to biodegrade completely into natural elements. Plus, they’re not just made in the USA, they’re manufactured locally from recycled plastic waste collected in Chicago.”

Fun and Intrigue with the Periodic Table - Review of a new book, The Disappearing Spoon: And Other True Tales of Madness, Love, and the History of the World from the Periodic Table of the Elements. The book covers the history of the elements of the periodic table, the people who discovered them and other interesting facts surrounding them. Sounds right up our alley.

Spoiled Rotten - A Timelss Complaint - Alfie Kohn makes some good points (as usual) in an article published in the Washington Post.

Good Times Made Simple: The Art of Having Fun -  From one of my favorite groups, Center for the New American Dream, this pdf This book offers alternatives to commercial TV, video games and trips to the mall. With suggestions for both indoor and outdoor activities and resources for learning more, it is worth taking a look at.

Hope everyone has a great rest of the weekend and stays cool!

 

* Links to material on Amazon.com contained within this post may be affiliate links for the Amazon Associates program, for which The Organization of Virginia Homeschoolers may receive a referral fee.

 

Monday
Jul192010

Note To Self...

Ocean City, Maryland - July 2010

…make a bigger effort to be outside when the sun sets.

It’s funny. This evening I was feeling a bit caught up in “stuff.” Nothing in particular, just been wondering why I seem to have such a hard time truly relaxing even down here at the beach. Not that I don’t have fun and enjoy myself, I do.

Just that I seem to be clinging to this idea that “I don’t have time.” I am realizing that this seems to be more of a construct of mine rather than reality. Sure, I have things I have to do and things I want to do. But nothing is earth shatteringly important and nothing has to be Done. Right. Now. Yet that is how I feel most of the time.

So I happened to head out to sit for a minute in my hammock swing before starting “the next thing.” And while I was sitting, I felt like I had breathing space for a moment. I realized that I don’t actually have to “do anything” to fix this feeling in me. I just need to make more space in my life. To sit. To observe. To breathe. The shift will happen on its own. I have seen this a lot lately, yet I keep falling back to feeling like I have to “fix things.” But the more I sit, the more “stuff” falls away.

So in addition to my meditation in the morning, I am going to make an effort to be outside in my hammock at sunset as often as possible. You can’t beat the view and it will be a good reminder to breathe. After all, I always have time for the moment I am in.