Grateful
Friday, November 25, 2011 at 01:54PM
Scott’s Run - Great Falls, Virginia
On blogs, once time goes by without a post, it gets harder and harder to jump back in. Mostly because it seems strange to just ignore the quiet days, especially when they unintentionally turn into quiet months.
I just wanted to post quickly to say, yes, I am still here. And yes, I do plan at some point to return to regular blogging. Life recently just seemed to catch up with me since we were run out of Ocean City at the end of the summer by Hurricane Irene (luckily no damage to our place there, just a bit of excitement as we had to pack up a bit earlier than expected).
For those who don’t know me in real life, one of the big things going on is the official ending of my twenty year marriage. We have been separated for over 2 years and have been working with a mediator over the past year to come up with an agreement (highly recommend the mediator route, for what it is worth). That process has finally reached its conclusion.
Needless to say, the process has not be easy, but luckily for us, it also has not been the typical horror story you usually hear with respect to divorce. Neither Jeff nor I like conflict and neither one of us hates the other, so I suppose that worked in our favor. It is more sad than anything else. The good news is that yes, I will be able to continue homeschooling and no, I won’t need to return to work. The boys have been adjusting along with us. I do feel that homeschooling has been a godsend in this situation, allowing each of us to have more time with them than we would have if we were limited to “after school hours” and weekends.
Other than that, I don’t plan on getting into it anymore here on the blog. Way too public of a space for something that private. I did want to at least mention it, however, because it was starting to feel like the elephant in the room to me.
Needless to say, I am actually feeling very grateful…for my terrific boys, for my friends and most of all for this journey I have been on. It’s been quite a ride.
It is probably not the smartest time to break my silence, just as we head into the holidays, as I doubt that I am going to have much “extra” time to write than I have in the previous months. But for whatever reason, the time did feel right to me, so I’ll give it a shot. We’ll see how it goes.
For those who are still here and reading after so much time away, thanks so much for hanging in there.
Life 
Reader Comments (8)
Take your time to heal - post when you want to.
Gorgeous photo btw.
I just wanted to say that I look forward to catching up with your journey whenever the time is right. And to offer a little wish for happiness to you all over the holiday period and beyond.
Love the photo, Stephanie....so beautiful! Thanks for sharing a bit about your journey in the past year or so...I look forward to reading more from you :)
well no wonder you haven't been posting much... Good thoughts winging your way in this difficult time. I'm glad you are finding a way through this that works for you and the boys. 20 years is still a good long relationship. I recall reading a Barbara Kingsolver essay in which she suggested that sometimes a marriage is just finished, not failed. It's still hard.
Will still be here when you feel like coming back and posting.
I just happen to run across your blog today and was shocked to hear and see your Ocean City pictures. I currently live in OC and just felt it was fate, because I have the hardest time finding anyone around here that homeschools or even has some of the same views I do. Where do you live full time, if you don't mind me asking? I hope life gets easier and happier for you on the journey that you are on. Good Luck, and I look forward to hearing more from you.
Thanks for the kind words everyone. At this point, starting my "new life" is pretty exciting while still a little scary. I'm just taking it "one day at a time" and seeing where it leads.
Kim - I actually live in Northern Virginia, but we spend our summers in Ocean City. I have a good friend who homeschools in Ocean City, though. I can pass on your name and email, if that is ok. I do know that there are other homeschoolers around the area. How old are your kids?
I just wanted to say that I look forward to catching up with your journey whenever the time is right
Always embrace those quiet months!