I have a new post up at Life Without School titled It's Not the Child. I wrote this after what seemed like a slew of posts on some of my homeschool lists from parents who seemed very worried that something was wrong because their children were not picking up certain concepts at particular times.
When I first started homeschooling, I was very lucky to find some wonderful homeschool mentors who were able to reassure me that my kids and I were doing fine and that we were all right where we needed to be. That there were no such things as "educational emergencies". And as my kids have gotten older, I have learned to that they were right.
I find that the longer I homeschool, the more paradigm shifts I have. One of the most reassuring shifts I have had is that if my child is struggling with something, he either is not ready to learn it and needs more time or the information is not being presented in a way that makes sense to him and he needs a different approach. Either way, the problem is not with my child.
One of the things that I truly love about homeschooling is that I am on my children's side. If something is not working, we can fix it. I don't have to get them to be where someone else says they should be. I can help them get to where they should be.